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5 Tips to Deal With Grief as a New Widow

5 Tips to Deal With Grief as a New Widow

If you are a new widow, please know we are deeply sorry. We understand that losing your partner is one of the most devastating events you can experience in life.

Right now it will seem like your life has completely stopped, and you may not be able to see beyond the day ahead of you. Everyone grieves differently, and no doubt you are wrestling with many different emotions since your husband passed away.

Even though it doesn't seem like it now, your life will go on. This article is designed to help you think about things that are going to make life a little bit easier for you in the coming months. 

Keep reading for five tips on how to handle grief.

1. Forgive Yourself and Others

As you learn how to handle your husband's death, feelings of guilt are normal during the grieving process. Reach out to those close to you and share your feelings. They'll give you the reassurance you need. 

Keep in mind that some of your close friends and even family may not know what to say to comfort you. In which case, they may deal with that by not saying anything at all.

As difficult as it is, remember that others are grieving too. They're trying to cope with the loss in their own way, and they may not always say or do the right thing.

2. The Power of Routine

Getting back to a strong routine will help create structure and consistency in your life. This can be a great aid in coping with loss. When we lose someone close to us, the breakdown in our routine can prolong the sense of helplessness and uncertainty.

Even though you may not feel tired or hungry, try to get a lot of rest and eat regular meals. If family or friends want to help by providing those meals, let them. It will be a big help for your overall health.

3. Feel in Control

It's quite possible that your partner took care of many practical and financial matters. Having to deal with these matters yourself will seem like a maze at first. Don't procrastinate, as that may make you feel even more vulnerable.

If you're not sure how to take control, reach out for help from family or from a professional that specializes in such matters. They can do much to help you feel that you're back in control of your circumstances.

4. Prepare for Physical Changes

It is normal to experience physical changes alongside the emotional trauma you're going through. Fatigue, lack of sleep, and even weight loss are common occurrences.

Acknowledge the physical impact on your body and seek help from your doctor if necessary. Be willing to make adjustments such as getting more rest rather than demanding that you get back to your normal routine right away.  

5. Help Others

Sadly, we live in a world where we are not the only ones dealing with difficult circumstances and changes in life. Reach out to help those around you and you will be amazed at how much better giving can make you feel.

Get Help as a New Widow

In this article, you've read about five tips to deal with grief as a new widow. If you take this advice to heart, it will help you to grieve naturally and holistically. 

Rememeber, you're never alone. We and others are here to help.